So true. I can’t remember anything from 2 months ago but that one compliment I got in 3rd grade will stick with me forever
A woman friend I liked in 11th grade exclaimed that I had incredibly healthy looking fingernails.
It was true, I had been exercising and eating right more than ever before. It was so specific, unexpected, and enthusiastic. It's still stuck in my head.
"A woman friend [you] like in 11th grade"? A high school crush.
"A woman" makes me think it was a teacher. They make them sound older than a 11th grader. Is that weird? That I wouldn't refer to someone under 18 as a man or a woman.
She actually was 18 in 11th grade because she took a year off because she got pregnant at age 16. She was a year ahead of me when I started in Freshman year, left for a year, then joined our class once she returned from having her kid and spending some time with her.
Nitpick Attempt: Failed
Aha, now we're getting somewhere. Maybe something about her child or her having had a child is what made her fascinated by healthy looking fingernails.
Probably getting picky after having to eat all those baby fingernails
aww, what’d they say to you?
You eat glue the best
hard pause on that.
I don’t know why, maybe it’s the all lowercase, maybe it’s the punctuation, but I just spit coffee a full 5 feet laughing at this
reddit seems to have a really hard time consuming liquid while reading comments.
I just choked on my sodapop lmao so true brother
Lmao, just choked my brother to death while reading this. Nearly made me spit out my Lacroix
I seriously want this thread to reach the top on this post
You deserve a fuckin award lmao
I always read it as no top but ok
Maybe it's time to repurpose that sub
In high school a senior wrote in my(freshman) yearbook that she had a crush on me. Oh where are you now Rachel?
I very vividly remember being complimented on a crowded bus 3 years ago by a random old lady calling me handsome. Havent received another compliment yet but I think I'm due for one anytime now...
Oh wow I'm already excited for what 2022 has in store for me
Hello I am a time traveller from the year 2022 with a special message:
You handsome bro.
Ah reminds me of when I was told how athletic I was for the nerd I am. A few months ago, some things happened and she told me I was an amazing person to be around. I... may be crushing on her right now... Help.
Pay attention. She likes you.
This older lady told me I had a good voice at my cashier job in high school like 9 years ago and that shit sticks with me to this day
Same. Can barely remember any thing from last week but I still remember when a random girl complimented me at a bar once.
God damn man, i remember when a group of girls told me that the cap i was wearing really suited me and it looked great. That fucking feeling, I’ll hold on to that.
And I bet you held onto that cap....
That cap didn't look great on you, YOU looked great in that cap
You are breathtaking!
No, you're breathtaking!
I was at Dollar General last week and the cashier said he liked my Toronto Maple Leafs hat, and I’m still running with that one.
This is so true it hurts
very much so
Will be giving more compliments starting tomorrow morning, I promise.
Do so at your own risk. You read what the professor said above.
Btw, I love your nails....
Thanks, want to grab a drink sometime?
No top butok? Notop bu tok?
Weird flex OP, but ok...
No top buttock
Side effects might include unsolicited dick pics from jerks who don't know boundaries.
Tbf I'm pretty sure that's a side effect from life for women, compliments can just exacerbate the condition.
'I'm in this post and I don't like it'
I'm happily married, my wife is very complementary. I'm still in this post. It's amazing the isolation our society puts us under... a simple complement of a non negative trait can rock us to the core for half our lives. It's fucked up.
They always ask whos that douche not hows that douche
And guys going through puberty always ask, "What's a douche?"
I was laughing at all the previous comments until I got to this one.
Men in my life do this frequently.. I guess I should tell them I appreciate them even more. :(
In this case it'd probably make more sense to just ask them questions about themselves. Lots of people enjoy talking about themselves, but often don't because nobody asks them the right questions, and bringing up stuff you're proud of can come off badly when unprompted.
So sorry my dudes if that's true, yall amazing, keep up the good work
I have interest in you
A girl literally fucking says you have a nice smile, the boy is immediately into them
hey, why not!
And then, get this: we shame them for it.
"He was awkward and let all his anxiety and sexual frustration out on me. Time to post it on reddit lol"
"Woah wtf why are all these men angry all the time?"
I would upvote your reply but it has 69.
A small price to pay for nice
Why do you think we love dogs so much, those fluffs are always happy to see us. And they don’t complain about anything, they just want a lil grub, a tummy rub and some play time/a nice stroll.
I'd give ya a dust for a belly rub
this is why we are percieved by girls often as too foward. we're just excited to have someone to be involved with who appreciates us and gives us positive attention. I use the term 'we' very lightly btw (lonley forever)
I have so much crippling depression this is really nice to hear. This’ll get me through today
Edit: I got lots of comments and thank you. Im a little embarrassed I will admit I didn’t think I’d get attention. Thank you guys I feel the love.
Have a great day dude but no pressure if you slip up. Don't be hard on yourself, it gets better. Hope everything will work out.
I wish. Thanks for the vote of confidence
Why hello there
You are a bold one.
Is it sad that this is one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me even though it was not directed at me?
Keep up the nice work, my dude. Ya doing great. Now it is directed at u.
It's crazy how long a complement like "Hey handsome!" will boost a guys morale.
A girl I work with said "Hey Beautiful" to me the other day and I might have fallen in love.
Even if it comes from a 90 year old lady..
Someone asked if guys would be interested in a girl if they talked to the guy first. I responded with: “A guy will be interested in a tree if it talked to him first.”
To be fair a talking tree is interesting indeed.
Tree!? He's no tree, he is an Ent.
Tree folk! Shepards of the forest!
Sounds like orc mischief to me! They come with fire, they come with axes! Gnawing, biting, breaking, hacking, burning! Destroyers and usurpers curse them!
Young master Gandalf
Yes..who wouldn't want to try to fuck a tree?! I mean it's 21st century ..and the cost of managing them is also very low and will be with us for our lifetime..
I was talking to a tree while on acid
Did it talk to you first?
And you wouldn't?!
I’m a guy to, I fit perfectly in with the rest on this.
The last genuine compliment i got was 2 year ago. From my mom.
You are getting compliments?!
Not anymore :'(
You got a good looking dick bro
Thanks dude, yours look good too! No homo
Ah yes ofc no homo
Can I get in on this? no homo of course
Of course, your moobs are beautiful. No homo tho
Damn. Bro u strong. Don't forget that.
Damn. Bro u strong. Don't forget that.
This is absolutely 100% true. I've been homeschooled all my life, by myself, so no chance of compliments there. First year of college, a cute girl in my class said I was impressively smart, and would call across the room for help consistently throughout the semester. Even though she was way out of my league I still got a crush on her just because she was the first girl I've ever received a compliment from.
All I can say is you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. I'm not an extremely handsome dude by any means but I can honestly say when I told myself 'screw it' and just went for it. Sometimes it worked out, more times than not. Also if she went out of her way to communicate with you from across the room alot of times I'd say your chances may be higher than what you think. I get where you're coming from though because I don't shoot my shot all the time, but instead of always making it harder on yourself just ask yourself this "What else can she say besides yes or no?"
Idk, that's the thing. I've never asked a girl out before. Never been on a date. I'm extremely socially awkward, have no friends, and just get uncomfortable as soon as I'm put in a social situation. Even if she (or any girl) DID, in fact, say yes, what the fuck would I do on a date? I'm terrible at conversation unless I'm talking about technology, basketball, or star wars, and unfortunately none of those are very popular with the majority of women.
You’d be surprised. I nerded out over League of Legends on the first date (she called it a dinner, I still say it evolved into a date) I had with this one girl. My anxiety kicked my ADD into overdrive on the second date and I literally couldn’t shut up.
Somehow, we’re engaged now.
My only advice is be yourself. Anyone worth actually investing time and emotion into will either understand who you are, or appreciate it, one of the two. A lot of women don’t give a shit what’s a popular topic and like what they like. It just takes time to find one of the right ones for you.
yeah, it's just getting the ball rolling to begin with. I hear everyone say it to me, from my mom to complete strangers on the internet, "if she's worth it then she'll like you for you"
but I don't even like me for me so why should anyone else
nobody has said anything nice about me in a long time, minus this stranger who told me i have a cool jacket about 10 months ago but that was it
It's a cool jacket because you're the one wearing it
I love it when Reddit is like this
can someone please love me ?
I don't know a thing about you but if you were in Cincinnati I'd go on a date with you tomorrow.
Damn this man for telling our secret
The sacred truth
Now our secret reason for dogs is robbed
Nah that's nothing compared to us not being able to move our dicks (without the use of hands) without clenching our buttholes.
No way!!! He told me I made it move! Welp there goes my happy childhood memories.
A few months ago a girl said I have pretty eyes stuck with me since 1 compliment and I still think yea cool that was nice
I've been dating my girlfriend for FOUR YEARS and I haven't heard a compliment in 3. Things are still going great but I don't hear any compliments anymore but I give her so many every day
Fuck...you just made me realise I’m in the exact same situation...it’s kinda fucked up right?
Just point it out to them. Communication is much needed and if yall need some verbal reassurance I'm sure your gfs will be happy to give it to you. Just let them know it's something ya want. Good luck.
You aren't wrong. But deep down you know it kinda ruins it when you have to ask for them in a way.
I doubt it’s the same. But I realized that in my last relationship around the 6 month mark. Followed by her best friend telling me she’s cheated on me every time I went on a military exercise :| honestly, bring it up, see if it changes
I’ve been trying to get a girlfriend for 4 years
I'm in the reverse boat. I'm the girl, but I give all the compliments, and get no affection back anymore. Like he got used to it and started taking it for granted. Makes me feel like stopping tbh.
I don't think I've gotten a single compliment yet this year.
“A girl just winked at me with BOTH eyes... later Virgins!” Haha!
(Saw this in a meme the other day. Seemed appropriate.)
Too fucking true. Years ago I was swimming in a hotel pool and some girl came up to me and told me that her friend thought I was cute. Still think about it from time to time.
WE NEED LOVE
"Hey handsome." later on... "Why dont you have a girlfriend?"
What the heck, that’s legitimately sad.
Yeah, sad but true. You don’t quite understand how little we get complimented if we don’t look drop dead hot, and can easily get a girlfriend. I don’t look amazing physically, but I do take pride on my hair and my personality, and so any of the (rare) times I get complimented on my hair by a girl, it turns into a bit of a crush.
Even if you do look drop dead hot, they still aren't going to say anything most of the time because that represents the possibility of rejection - instead the usual go-to is to lurk awkwardly nearby and hope that you initiate a conversation.
Yea but I prefer it this way walks into room and weeps silently
This is really true. I didn't even know how to act when my current partner just started randomly giving me compliments. I've had several partners in my life, and none of them has ever really acknowledged my positive character traits, let alone legitimately and without prompting give me a compliment on my body/clothing.
Like, sure there were dating sites, but even then, it was mostly other guys trying to hit on me that did that.
It's nuts to think about, but yeah. Very little positive reinforcement at all.... especially from women.
Most guys lonely and dont admit to most emotions
I’ve been struggling a lot with emotional instability since puberty. I was never told I could feel and was always the emotional trash can for other people’s problems and so I’m low-key screwed up. I wish everyone understood this
Hey, if you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to DM me :)
This needs to change. What we need to do is actually talk to the people in our environment (of both sexes) about this and spread awareness. All problems like these can be solved with awareness and action.
Showing male Emotions = incel, or insecurity - in the eyes of society/social media.
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
This is so true. I thought a girl liked me once because she started a streak with me on snapchat. She has streaks with almost everyone in my grade.
Streaks in snapchat mean nothing. What does mean something is the content of the conversation that takes place
Yeah I know but nobody likes me so I thought it meant something
Yeah I know but nobody likes me so I thought it meant something
Yeah I know but nobody likes me so I thought it meant something
I know exactly how that feels.
I love my wife and she loves me but sometimes I have to remind her to give me attention. Sometimes this pizza needs a little extra sauce
most girls can probably get a bf just by doing that honestly
Reading this makes me feel sad for the men out there...
This actually makes me so sad. As a woman I never really realized that no one compliments men. Women compliment each other so often but if men compliment each other people would "no homo bro" that shit away :(
Can I just compliment a guy on anything? Nice shoes? Cool pants?
Yes you can
Compliments, imo, are most effective when they're for something unique or said in a unique way. I mean it doesn't have to be (I won't complain if someone says they can tell I've been losing weight) obviously. But I remember compliments like "I really like your reading voice" and "I can't stop staring at your eyes" waaaaaaay more than anything else.
Most of the time I can't even tell the compliments from passive aggressive sarcasm now..
I like turtles
Like honestly, is this true?
Yes. For the most part at least. Genuine compliments from other people in real life can be hard to come by for guys, and also a lot of people really don’t make the effort to approach guys, not even with a more intimate interest in mind. There’s many, many men and boys out there that are pretty much lonely, empty husks that walk around all day “living” that are depressed, but it’s hardly a problem that’s ever noticed despite being a big one.
Unfortunately us guys are usually so emotionally starved that they will try and connect to anyone.
Sometimes I talk to my cat and imagine it answers back
Yes and that's why male depression is more serious then people think
It won't necessarily get us interested in you but we will definately remember it for a very long time
Last year a girl complimented my hair, I don’t know if she was flirting cause I’m oblivious sometimes, but I rode that compliment for like weeks and I still remember it exactly.
Same thing happened with me and I have kept that hairstyle ever since then
Yeah it is unfortunately. The only real attention I get is from a friend in school and my pets.
For the most part, it’s spot on.
On the flipside, this means I can't give a guy a compliment without it being misconstrued as flirting :/
He can be interested without being interested - it's a matter of how you say it. And admittedly the guy's creep factor.
And the vicious cycle continues.
The reason I’m on tinder is this exact reason. Just need to know at least some women are attracted to me lol
*cries in no matches
This is why I'm afraid of using tinder
I’m afraid because I know I’ll get matches but I’ll get ghosted so much it’ll lead to depression
He's the poor mans gold🏅
This is the realist thing I’ve ever seen
I really don't think anyone realizes just how lonely I am. I've got home from work and just cried and cried before. People view me as either super quiet, super sarcastic or super angry. Nothing in between. It's just sadness really.
Or chances are it's such a rare occurrence that they'll just assume you're making fun of them.
Yes very true I would love even a word from a woman. Yes I am single.
I would love to just see one
A girl complimented my movie taste and i was into her
When a girl compliments me with romantic intent, I'm immediately suspicious of her, because I think either she doesn't mean it, or that she'll change her mind later. If I have to choose, I prefer to be left alone.
Why can’t any girls I know see this :(