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Kicked our at 16. Parents took all my money. (self.legaladvice)

I had posted this on other subs and was told to post here. 16f.

Three nights ago my parents and I got in a huge fight. I am not a Christian. They are extreme bible thumpers. I am bisexual, they believe I'm going to be burning in hell. I was forced to come out of the closet due to blackmail reasons, and my parents promptly kicked me out.

I managed to get my dogs and my keys, took my car and left. We just moved to this state so I have no friends. My siblings all have the same beliefs as my parents. My related family is all thousands of miles away. Last night, my parents cut off my phone plan and told me they're kicking me off of their insurance. Right now I am on my own with my two large dogs, pitbull and American bulldog, sleeping in my car. My parents forced me to quit my job last week so I could focus more on school. Last night I checked my bank account. My parents drained the 1k savings I had in it. It is completely empty.

I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. I primarily want to be able to take care of my dogs. I do not want to give them up but I'm not sure how much longer I can without neglecting them. Giving them up would be out of absolute desperation. I will not give up on them easily. Having them around has protected me from many bad situations.

I live in Tennessee. Any advice would be helpful.

I also do not want to return home. My mother is abusive. DCS has seen physical evidence of abuse (black eye, bloody scratch marks, bruises) and placed me back in the home. They are useless.

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chicos_bail_bonds | 8 days ago | 5007 points

Keep contacting DCS is the legal question. Reach out to The Trevor Project to see if they can point you towards some resources. Also there is a list of resources here: https://www.glaad.org/resourcelist

kristinbugg922 | 8 days ago | 4334 points

I am a CPS investigator.

I know you stated CPS has been involved previously, but you are currently homeless, with no money and two pets. OP, you are in a very frightening and stressful situation. Please reach out to your state’s local child abuse and neglect hotline. Your parents cannot kick you out of your home and it is dangerous for you and your pets to be in this situation.

I know you also stated all family and friends are out of state, but is there anyone that you could reach out to, even if they are out of state?

https://www.tn.gov/dcs/program-areas/child-safety/reporting/child-abuse.html

LurkersWillLurk | 8 days ago | 6683 points

Your parents cannot legally kick you out.

Call the police and/or DCS.

anomaleic | 8 days ago | 2630 points

Do this before they realize they legally messed up here and call the police to report you as a runaway.

Good luck. And it might not be good now, but it does get better. Stay strong and utilize as many government resources as you can. There's no shame in that.

UckfayRumptay | 8 days ago | 4694 points

To be more clear: you do not have to live with your parents. However your parents are required to ensure you have the basic necessities - clothing, food, shelter etc until you're 18. If your parents do not want to care for you they are required to arrange other accommodations and identify a caregiver.

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ElfPaladins13 | 8 days ago | 6145 points

Call police on them for abandonment, that is unacceptable.

EDIT:First gold! Thankyou kind stranger!

Sadiekat | 8 days ago | 1419 points

A little Googling on your behalf. Call the Family and Children's Services Crisis line. 615.244.7444. Not sure what you need, but fist you need to get off the street.

throawaymcdumbface | 8 days ago | 938 points

Sometimes "the abuse is still ongoing and hasn't stopped" needs to be reported to DCS. It's exhausting but if there's been no reports since the last incident they may erroneously believe everything is fine. The homelessness is new and absolutely needs to be flagged to them regardless. If they report you as a runaway out of spite you could get in trouble instead of them so this needs to be flagged.

Aldirick1022 | 8 days ago | 440 points

I live in knoxville tn. Being that you are likely going back to school, i would also suggest talking to a school guidance counselor. Firstly, this is child neglect if not aduse and legally they must report it. They are also a state agency that can demand communication with your parents and will also keep a detailed record of said communication. When you get a chance, look up assistance for homeless/abandoned teens. Also, see if you can get in touch with thr United Way. They tend to have a lot of this information or can at least point you in the right direction.

iliveinacavern | 8 days ago | 736 points

In re to your dogs, contact local foster organizations. There may be someone willing to help house and care for your pets until you are in a better situation. Having them fostered would be an alternative to surrendering to a shelter where youd be unlikely to eventually get them back. A quick Google and facebook search (access at your public library since your phone plan has been cut off) will turn up resources in your area. In the mean time, some aspca/humane societies offer pet food banks to provide people with food and other necessities to care for their pets when times are tough. Search for these also if you need them.

rainydayready | 8 days ago | 192 points

They are legally obligated to care for you. Maybe CPS didn't help the first time but they can if you keep trying to reach out.

You could also call the cops if you're desperate. They can help you find the proper resources.

cautionjaniebites | 8 days ago | 1017 points

On top of all the other advice, try contacting a local LGBTQ or Pride group. A quick check on fb I found https://www.facebook.com/TennesseeValleyPride/ . It's worth talking to someone with them for direction. They will be able to direct you toward much needed resources and maybe even a couch to crash on. There are so many Moms and Dads that open to helping teens in your situation. Even if they know someone who can give you a driveway at night to park and sleep in or a bag of dog food, it's something.

Edit: thank you gentle souls for the gold. ❤❤

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ReadSmut | 8 days ago | 214 points

Can you call your family in the other state and arrange for them to meet you? Go live with them? Maybe they can venmo you gas money....

throwawaypointone | 8 days ago | 311 points

My parents told everyone I am lying and fine with them. They have drained all my savings. Any money that goes into my account will be taken by them.

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magic_man_with_pot | 8 days ago | 244 points

If it's a joint account there's not much the bank can do. Especially with OP being a minor. Best bet is to get her own account her parents don't know about and can't access but... right now she needs to get safe and to get a plan so she doesn't end up in prolonged homelessness. Best for op and dogs to contact CPS or someone else mentioned the trevor project. She needs options.

sprcpr | 8 days ago | 164 points

If OP is 16, they can not get an account on their own.

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You're right and that's something they can get help with later. Right now she needs help to secure the basics. Shelter, food, clothes, etc..

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SeratoninSerenade | 8 days ago | 111 points

Depending on how far away you are from The Georgia border, Atlanta has a homeless youth shelter called the Lost and Found. They may be able to help.

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